Creating your place in the world? Your choice.

Having a choice in life is the essence of personal freedom.

When we find the space to choose, we can exercise our will and have a sense of self-agency, adequacy, and capability. It is the state of being the master of who we are and a form of confidence that allows us to meet others with ease and clarity.

Having no choice keeps us in a state of victimhood, which pollutes our souls and deteriorates our well-being and growth.

One of life's challenges is finding balance and inner harmony in the movement between things happening to us and our ability to exercise our will and choices.

This dance of life of control and the lack of it is one we must master.

It is a dance in which we simultaneously lead and are being led.

It asks us to move in between those states smoothly.

Our inner growth, well-being, and the knowing we have a place in the world reflect the mastery of this dance.

Today I want to offer you a new step in your dancing routine.

A step that would seem impossible to do at first, but once you try, it will go smoothly and will ease the rest of your routine.

It is a step you must continually train, especially when you face a difficult moment when you may feel trapped or choiceless by what life throws at you and you.

It is a step you need to repeat when it seems you are losing control so that you can trust your feet and legs to carry you as you want.

To set the stage for this step, we must start with the things you could not choose.

It can be your name, where you were born, how you looked, the school you went to, or any experience you feel was happening to you.

Some of those aspects may be fine with you. However, others may feel like a bone stuck in your throat, blocking your breath and expression.

Choose one thing that you can start with. Best to choose something manageable and straightforward. Let's start slow. When you master that, you can move to a more burdening aspect of your life.

Once you choose one aspect, one choice you would like to regain power over or release the conflict you carry in it, pay attention to the physical experience you have when you think about this subject.

Pay attention to the tensions and the response you have in your body.

Please pay attention to the way it makes you feel.

What is the history you carry around it; Which inner conflicts, fears, pains, shame, anger, sense of helplessness, and so on?

Please take a moment to stay with it. Register it and identify it.

Feel how you had to carry those feelings and how you had to armor yourself, as you had no other choice.

Some of the feelings around this subject may be very unpleasant; You may have been hurt, violated, or judged, or you had to hide parts of yourself because of that.

Would you be ready, at least for a moment, not to escape, fight or fear those emotions and sensations?

Are you willing to recognize how you had to contain it in you?

Which efforts and ways of responding do you recognize within you?

Give yourself the conscious and chosen time to feel what you have been doing as you thought you had no choice. When you do so, you regain your choice, and free those aspects of you, that you tried to protect when you had no other choice.

Choosing the seemingly non-choose able is the mastery here and how we can free our power trapped in that place.

It is how we remember the choice we always have, especially when we face a challenge.

After 1-2 Min. of identifying and learning that state, we move with a new step:

In your heart, say:

"I could not choose it then. I would not choose it then, but now I do.

I re-choose it as a part of me. Of my path."

Take a moment to feel what this does.

For example: "I take the name XXXX. I chose to take it."

Or: "I chose to have XXXX as my home town/country."

Or: "I chose to have XXXX as my sibling."

When you say that sentence and bring the state of choice into your experience, slowly release those armoring efforts. They helped you to manage the intensity of those past experiences, but now they block you.

In the past, when having no choice, you had to contain this intensity within yourself (and your body), as you could not act upon your free and healthy need and choice.

When you meet that intensity and release your protective armor (of disconnect), make sure that you breathe and allow yourself to expand and meet those sensations and emotions.

Breathing and moving is how you regain freedom and your choice and willpower. The way you recover that power over that choice-less moment. It is how you can stop fighting and mistrusting those parts of yourself. It is how you can stop feeling you lose control and your inner freedom, especially when life provokes those feelings or touches these aspects of yourself.

Keep breathing deeply, especially if the experience seems uncomfortable. It is challenging, and you may want to fight or escape it.

Stay with it.

Choose it.

Choose to meet it.

The choice to meet it. Let the fear shake you, the pain pierces through, and all other emotions expand and be.

This choice to face those experiences first within yourself is how you recover your sense of freedom and always have a choice in life.

You become the master by transforming the conflict into a dance.

Recovering the sense of having a choice will open the path to healing, releasing the old, and strengthening your heart and well-being.

Suppose your mind is fighting it, take time to breathe and allow all the intensities to flow and be expressed and felt.

Be aware of your bones and of the strength that you have.

Of the resilience that is part of who you are.

Feel that choosing it is not giving in.

Your mind will initially not understand that, as it still sees the state of "having no choice.

Now choose that which you could not choose.

Choose so that you can free your strength, clarity, and heart from the conflict you carry.

Choose so that whatever shame you carry can be released.

Re-choose to release, move through, and heal any hurt and trauma you feel bound to.

Choose so that you recover the inner power you have disconnected from in the past.

Choose it to find different confidence and ease within yourself, not rejecting and fighting with your past and who you were /are.

It is the moment with which you choose to be HERE. NOW.

To be truly present and alive.

Where the magic of who you are and life can show itself, despite the difficulties and imperfections.

Only with that power and choice you can find new freedom.

You can grow.

You can move towards that which makes you whole.

It is only by choosing the impossible to choose from out of your past (it would also be out of your future), may you recover your NO and your YES.

You will be able to express your refusal better and free your ability to receive and let in.

This choice is the place where being led, and leading is being tied together. It is where you master who you are, the ever-growing state of what you can do and give.

Pay attention to the experience you have now after you re-chose.

Stay connected to your body's experience, ensuring you are not closing off.

Feel the places where your body is touching the chair, the floor, and the clothes. Then pay attention that the space around you exists and let it touch you. Be there.

Pay attention to how life is around you. It is not against you. There is no need to fight. Or isolate.

Please take a moment to feel this expansion, and whatever emotion or sensations need to be there, let it. It is you who is getting freed through it. It is you who you are choosing.

When you do, you are then free to dance through life.

When you choose, you can connect to your inner power.

When you choose to stay within yourself, no matter the circumstances, you can better respond, change and shift the circumstances.

Now you start to dance!

You do not need to control life and others. Nor would you need to manage and fight with yourself to be different, better.

You will be moved by what is true to you.

You would move with your pain rather than fight it.

You would move to grow and let go rather than control.

It may seem that you fall, lose control, and even die when you make that impossible choice.

But I ask you to try. It is the fear that you must meet to be free.

It is the old fear that needs to be released. It is letting go of that old sense of safety in which. You were hiding.

You are not falling. You are flying.

You are not losing; you are letting go and making space for new.

You are not dying; you are starting to live.

It is when you let life lead you. It would be best to stand on your legs so you do not feel helpless. It would be best if you stayed connected to your strength and trust.

Feel in the next few days what happens after you choose in this way.

You can re-choose something out of your past once a week and see how complete, at ease, and free you may feel.

How much more can you express yourself and give to the world?

It is how you know your undeniable place in the world.

It is where you masterfully dance.

Yours,

Anna

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