Meeting the beauty of life – daring to grieve and let go.

Daring to grieve and let go of what you are not, what you do not have anymore, or could not create, is the gateway to finding new beauty, meaning, and clarity of what there IS.

Letting go is one of the most challenging things we need to do in life.

In letting go, we are confronted with fear and death. With meeting the absence or the end: the absence of what we needed or the end of the opportunity to get what we thought we could not exist without.

In grieving lies the secret of feeling deeply connected to all that we thought we (want and) lost. A connection that brings the essence of what we want and is, without the fantasies and ideas we confused it with.

In grieving, we can shed that which has died and let life bring its fullness to us anew.

In grieving, we can find magic as we free ourselves from the fear of meeting the end.

We are then by default connect to a deep trust in ourselves and life.

In grieving we open up to the unknown; the unknown of who we are and can be, to be, and all the beauty we can experience.

There is a part of the magic of life we are unable to see and know until we grieve and let go.

Think of an aspect of your life you know is challenging for you. One that carries frustrations, and disappointments. Maybe it often seems that nothing changes for you and a sense of despair may be sneaking in.

There within lies a challenge for you. A challenge of grieving without a safety net for your heart. Of daring to meet that loss. Of it never returning. The absolute death of that wish, need experience, fantasy, or relationship. A loss that you are probably still trying to push against in some way.

It is not an easy thing to do. Your mind may resist it, fearing the intensity of grief and sadness. Your mind trying to protect you from death, is believing that grieving loss, and confronting death in a way, may destroy you, hurt you too much, or keep you trapped at a dead end.

But grieving, intense as it may be, is humbling. It reminds you that you are not here to control. It reminds you that life is what is leading everything.

Grieving is releasing death from within your life. From what needs to live.

It is washing away the dead pieces and letting them turn into nourishment for your soul.

It humbles that part of you that believes it needs to win all the time to survive, be appreciated, and find its place in the world.

Let’s say you are longing for a relationship. Or maybe you have given up on having one in your life. Or maybe you are running after a specific image or f a relationship while being in one and constantly being frustrated.

The most frightening would be to meet the possibility that you do not have one and may never have one. That you have wanted and did not manage to experience.

Maybe you held a fantasy of life, and what you would be, have, and feel with and through a relationship.

The fear of meeting those feelings is often time a burden you carry unknowingly.

It makes you doubt yourself, judge yourself and get stuck in jealousy or despair.

You may be compensating with some addictions or constant activities that try to soothe that pain and loss. You maybe stay overly active not to feel that hole. That loss.

A hole can turn into a space.

Falling into that hole can turn into flying.

What seems to be empty at first can transform into new creation and beauty.

When you grieve, you then fall into that hole. If you stay connected to the whole experience and sense it in all of your being (and body), the bitterness, and the constant taste of lack, can give way to a new beauty and awe.

I invite you to take a moment and gently step into that place.

Dare to meet that loss.

Stay with it.

Breathe into it.

Let all the tears fall as long and as much as they want.

It is a sacred place. The place of grieving is the place where life meets you to release you from the death you carry. The death that suffocates your beauty. It is the place where life takes that burden, and then can infuse you with its force.

But for that, you need to stay with that grief.

Cry it.

Mourne it.

As much as it needs.

Move with it.

Take time to breathe and feel it.

Rest in it.

Let it help you to let go of any effort you carry. Let it take away the judgments of your mind and the despair it holds.

See yourself at that place, on your knees, not fighting to keep it alive. See yourself giving that package, to life.

And then ready to be shown and given something new. Something you did not know until now about.

Life is that large endless presence that can give you all you are unable to see.

But for that, you need to give that which you were holding, away.

Say goodbye.

Know it will never be it will not be as you thought it will.

Please stay with it as long as you need.

Breathe and stay connected to the full experience in your body.

This is the place from which your limited knowledge and who you were trying to be that was not fully you, can also die… so that who you are, and the power you were not aware of can come to life.

I promise you; you will find that magic moment when suddenly something new opens up.

Don’t try to know it.

Don’t try to outsmart it.

It is there, needing you to fully let go so you will be free to receive.

You can come back to that aspect of your life and move through a few rounds of grief.

It may be different each time. You may find different, hopes, ideas, and fantasies you need to grieve and let go of.

Always stay connected to your breath and the physical experience.

Then after being at that sacred place where you meet life, “on your knees”, feel what beauty returns. What kind of ease and fullness may you feel and know, once you stopped holding on, fighting for, and believing you are dependent on that idea to make your life and yourself meaningful?

By grieving you let life, show you how meaningful your life is…

The more you dare to grieve the more you live!

The more you live the less you will need to grieve.

Yours

Anna

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