Stability in times of uncertainty - the magic of our bones

These days are filled with the unknown, which is in a way embodied by the corona virus.

It heightens that which we do not want to see. It brings to the surface all the cracks we try to hold tightly together and the broken parts we are trying to swipe under the rug.

In these days and for a while now, we have to navigate within a constant changing reality. One in which we cannot hold on to the illusion of control by knowing what is THE thing that will make us safe and become our ultimate savior.

This strategy of trying to control, suppress and make sure that we are not meeting those old shame trapped parts, was holding us above water till today. But now, with these new conditions, it does not hold anymore.

With those strong waves of uncertainty, we are being confronted with those parts of ourselves we were trying to burry under the surface. They seem to become heavy. To pull us down under those fears, feelings and issues, we were trying to avoid.

Like in the open ocean, the more we try to fight against them, the more we feel suffocated and threatened. The less ease we can have and the less trust in life opening to us, do we perceive. Instead, it seems that those issues overwhelm us, trying to enter from each opening we could not “close”.

It can overflood us in our relationships, in our relation to our finances, to our health, to our sense of worth or wishes.

BUT we do not have to drown. We can learn how to dive and ride those waves. We can let life engulf us with its intensity and wish for us to be free and whole.

These times ask us to retrieve that deep rootedness in ourselves, with which we were naturally born with.

There are many ways to reach that connection.

Today I want to offer you a path through your bones. They hold a deep knowledge of who you are, and what life is, that we often do not connect to. It is a knowing that is not logical and can be discovered throughout life and our engagement with it, rather than out of a “safe” observant point of view that tries to plan who we are…

Attempting to connect to that deep sense of knowing that is rooted deeply in us, will allow us to master these times and come out renewed rather than drained or deranged.

WHAT TO DO:

To start stand or sit with eyes closed. Take a few deep breaths trying to feel your weight.

Let go of whatever efforts you sense.

You can move your body to gain more clarity of how it feels and where you may be holding some tension.

If you can, try to connect to your bones and feel them in your body.

Now, choose a subject to work with and to resolve: a fear, a threat, a sense of despair or an insecurity you would like to deal with and heal.

Pay attention to how does it feel in you, when you think about that issue.

What are you doing with your body? What is the sensation that comes with it?

+ What happens to the way you sense your bones?

+ What do you try to control or avoid with these efforts in our body?

+ Why did you have to do those efforts of control?

+ What were you missing and in which way and on whom were you dependent?

When you are holding on to an old effort aimed to protect yourself it is an effort stemming of a sense of powerlessness and dependency.

Can you feel how you squeeze your bones and suffocate them?

Doing so, you suffocate and cut the life line you have to your trust and the sense of being unbreakable. It cuts away the connection to your deep knowing that all is well for you.

The fears that you are now sensing are old interpretations of what is (was) possible and available for you.

By holding onto those efforts, you are holding onto those old reduced options of the past.

You are blocking your options and your inner strength and fullness.

Can you remember the moment you were needing to create those efforts?

How old were you?

It may have been the best choice you were to take in order to deal with the circumstances.

Can you imagine that there are other options to deal with what you are confronted? Such you may have been unaware of till now?

Can you imagine that sensing and feeling those parts of yourself that seemed to be too weak, ashamed, or hurting will not kill you or break you?

Most of the way you suffer today is by trying not to feel them. The way you cut them off. Those parts are simply screaming at you to be newly integrated. To be taken in.

Are you willing to give them a chance to be part of you again?

Are you willing to stop the effort and take the risk of feeling what is while being connected to your bones that hold you?

To do so feel your bones.

Chose to listen to them.

Create space for the bones again.

Now let us start to wake the bones up:

Take your fingers and with the tip of your fingers, while hands are held like claws, start to tip and create vibrations on the bones in your body: on your head and face. On the ribs and the clavicle bones. On the chest bones. You can then do that on each arm and hand with the other one.

You can also do that with your knuckles on your hips, and the bones of the legs and feet you are able to reach.

To complete, stand on your heels, toes raised up and walk around, banging slightly your heels on the floor with each step to create a vibration in those bones. (You can also do this while sitting.)

After you have done that for a while, relax and pay attention to your breath.

Try to connect again to your bones and sense them. Take the time to feel how the sensation of the bones unfolds with in you. Be patient with it. Give it time.

Now take a moment to simply feel your body and the bones.

Your bones know deeply that all is well and that you are able. They hold in them the strength to stay stable in every situation, allowing your joints and muscles to let go and bring back their flexibility and agility.

Breathe and relax more of the efforts you may be doing that do not allow the bones to be felt and vibrate.

Your bones connect you to a deep sense of being guided in life and in yourself. It means that they connect you to a deep knowing that all is well for you. All that you need to do is to let it reveal itself to you. Be patient.

Now, recall again the subjects you were looking at before whole keeping the connection to your bones, the space in your body and the knowing that you are made to manage life, to live and to thrive. The knowing in your bones that there is always a way out.

That your life is yours!

Your life belongs no one.

No need to explain or internally defend.

Whatever dependency you may sense or take part in, is nothing that is deeply rooted in you. It is the crutches you took on when you thought you could not stand on your own.

Feel your bones and sense that you can. You can stand on your own.

You may be still wobbly or you may need some time to grow that stability, but your bones hold you.

Whatever you would like to have / experience and create is waiting for you when you will be able to do those steps towards it on your own. Trusting and connecting to your bones.

Stay with that experience for a while, maintain it in your attention so it can take roots with in your memory and conscious knowing.

Now feel the stability despite what happens around you. Feel that you are taking those steps towards what you want no matter how turbulent that “water” around you.

I salute to your life,

Anna

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