The magic of endings - your super power is letting go.

Dear friend,

How do you tend to end things? Do you take care to end a conversation so that nothing stays open for you? How do you end a meeting? How do you end your day or any other situation or phase in your life?

Do you manage to create an ending that allows the situation to be complete? Or does the end tends to slip your attention so that maybe you are left with bits and pieces that haunt you afterwards begging for your attention? Begging you actually to complete.

There is something tricky in endings.

We all have some kind of a tendency to either move quickly away from them, escaping that moment, or we linger for too long on the verge of them, not being able to move towards them.

To end things well is an art we all should master if we want to find fulfilment, inner freedom and a sense of connection to our true selves, life and what we love.

Endings are an unfolding of all that was part of our experience. All the treasures as well as the difficulties that were a part of that situation, relationship or any other moment we were part of.

Think of endings like a flower opening it’s petals to be touched by the sun. The moment it presents itself in its utmost glory after all the life force it invested in its blossom.

From the moment of blossoming, the end is felt. The moment of the petals dropping to the floor gently, leaving a trail of their fragrance to be fleetingly remembered is what we fear.

Often times we tend to fear endings. They remind us of death in an unconscious way. And we fear death…

Sometimes we do not dare to begin just to make sure we do not meet that end.

The end may confront us with the sensation of loss, that feels so difficult to deal with.

As the end shines a light over who we are /were.

But the magical power of ending lets us be connected and with all that was. It enables us to be continuously nourished by the life energy we invested in those situations and experiences.

No matter how we judge or what those relationships and situations contained, the end is how we can make sure there is healing, if one is needed. If what we end contained difficult moments for us, or a sense of shame because we knew acted not true to who we are, we will see it more clearly with in ourselves having a great chance to make inner amends to it.

The magical power of the ending we can experience and take with us a loving connection with all that was.

The art of ending is how we keep all of who we are intact.

The mastery of ending lets us feel eternity.

Let us try to look at the end with new eyes; the end is that moment in time, where all of our love and courage is called to blossom. It is the time where we do not need to push nor use any kind of force. We just need to let go.

The end I am talking about is those inner moments after the action we take to make an “outer” end. The actions to bring something to an end may be even harsh at times, but the ending itself is one that demands the softness of letting go.

As you may probably know by now, letting go can be 100 times more difficult than to push and act.

If we master the ending of things, all that we then start and that we can continue, will become filled with more meaning, purpose and fulfilment.

Think of all those conversations you did no to complete truly. How many of those do you still carry in your mind. All those relationships you did not really end, but fled. How many of them seem to keep you tied and unfree to truly connect?

Think of all those days you could not end and they leaked into the night robbing your sleep.

And there is more….more you did not end and became a burden. A little death sucking on our vitality.

** Dear friend, think for a moment why does it tend to be difficult for you to let go?

Where do you find yourself holding on to things, relationships, conversations and even past needs and wishes?

You know that if you start with knowing the end, you will have a better chance of keeping your integrity, having a clear intention and managing to stay true to yourself in challenging moments.

So think of this: how would you like to end your next day?

If you think of that end you want to experience, you will be able to find a more clear and engaged beginning.

Ending is not a target or a goal. It is a sense of being that you reach.

Think of a friendship you have. How would you like to end it? How would you like to feel and be when it ends (no matter what are the circumstances of the end). Once you thought of the end, what can you see now in the way you interact, that needs change? Where do you need to let go already now and where can you be more invested and connected than you dare to be now?

How about you take time to think of some relationships that are important to you and decide how you want to be/feel when they end. After you did that take a moment to close your eyes and let that way of being enter your experience and heart. Once you have stayed with that for a moment, decide what are the things you need to pay attention to, be honest about or be invested more greatly in, in order to make sure you will be able to find that end when it comes.

Then think of few situations or relationships that were not ended well for you. Feel what is left open? What did not end for you? What was difficult to complete? Where did you need to insist that kept it alive years, days or hours after the end? What could you not let go off and why?

Then think of how would you like to end this? how would have you like to feel in the end? And now?

Write it all down.

After you wrote, close your eyes. Take few deep breaths and feel where still are you holding onto? What in your body/being cannot let go?

Feel what is it that you were missing in you or in the other person and say it out loud couple of times.

Be aware of the experience it creates in your body.

Be with whatever you sense.

If there is still a need to blame, to be angry or any other emotion, let it be. Be with it fully.

And then just ask yourself what would it take for you to complete it? To let go? To let it rest and end?

And again, breathe deeply into your chest. Be aware more of that area and try to connect to your heart.

Now take the paper and squeeze it to a ball.

Hold it with both hands close to your heart breathe and be ready to end it.

Then breathe deeply and let the ball drop to the floor as you declare: We did our best. We did what we had to do or knew to do. Now it is done. It is complete. You are freed and I am free to be me.

Now sense what you experience and feel how that ending can affect other relationships you have and your choices.

Dear friend, I suggest you to be more aware of some moments of ending in the next days. Bring your attention and love to those moments no matter how big or small they are.

I promise you, your experience of your life will shift to one of more beauty, depth and connection.

Leaving you with love and knowing this that is only the beginning,

Anna

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