The superpower of your heart, no matter what.

Our heart has the sweetness of an innocent child, the courage of a warrior, and the knowing of a wise old soul.

Often times we tend to see it in an opposite way…

We may have heard that our hearts cannot be trusted. That it is way too vulnerable and cannot make good choices.

That its sweetness, is a problem… we grow up caging it, hardening it and are able to let it loose in excesses that melt the control we have had to maintain.

But all that are the efforts left over from hurt, trauma, and difficulties. It is not the way we are supposed to lead our lives or flourish.

Allowing the sweetness in can bring so much of ourselves back.

It brings the beauty of life back.

The power of us being human, able to connect and be touched.

It soothes everything.

It lets things that may have blocked us, melt away.

Allowing our hearts to be in their true and natural capacity of love, with no restrictions, judgments, fears, or rules, gives us back our ever-lasting vitality, a sense of beauty, and appreciation. A deep inner-peace is then flowing from the truth of who we are, and the joy that can let us rides its waves on the unexpected path we take.

Love pierces through all the protective layers our minds have created, and connects us to the confidence in our being.

Daring to feel that intensity, is not easy, as we are then acutely aware of ourselves is limited in this lifetime. It touches on old memories and wounds.

At its core, when we let love in, we become aware of death. Of things passing.

The preciousness of all becomes so vivid and painfully clear.

The awareness of death, in return, wakes us up, bringing more love.

At first, the sweet pain of this intensity may scare you.

If you manage to breathe into it, encourage the cage around your heart to move, and be patient while the flow of air and blood warms your chest, you will be tasting the sweetness of life.

There might be some tears asking you to pass through your throat and let your eyes sparkle with a magical vital juice.

Take a moment and think of a few people around you.

It can be your family, partner, or friends.

Choose to connect to your heart and the love you have.

No matter if you have some things you need to hash out with them, or if your mind is throwing some different memories of disappointment hurt, or judgments.

Now is the challenge not to go into that fight for a moment.

Instead, direct your attention to the notion that you all share life in some way.

Remember and agree to perceive your death and theirs.

Take a few moments to focus on your breathing, directing it mainly to your chest and heart area. Try to stay put with your attention, choosing to stay connected and open, no matter what starts to stir up.

Then choose to find your love. Choose to let your heart feel it. Be it. This is what it naturally does.

If that love seems to squeeze your heart, in response open up.

Maintain that choice.

Things will move and shift.

Even if some wrongdoings pop up, be aware of the choices you can make without needing to close and harden yourself.

Closing ourselves was a way to say no when we could not.

Today freeing our hearts to feel the intensity of love, can free our freedom to say no when we want, without becoming cold, or pushing someone else down. It can free the accumulated shame we may carry about ourselves and free ourselves to be.

How often do you forget you are the next people you love?

How often do you keep your heart protected?

When you have taken the time to stay open through the storms of anger, stabs of pain, waves of shame, and other emotions, feel what has shifted for you.

What has returned to your experience, body, and the space you are in?

How do you then see yourself, your life, your journey, and the people with whom you engage?

After training to do so alone, you will be challenged to move to do so while engaging.

When things are not in your mind only or in your comfortable control.

When you chose the person with whom you want to train that experience, things may not run smoothly. You may have uncomfortable situations as well.

Your challenge is then to make sure you are not closing yourself off.

You are still letting love in. Even if you maybe need to say “no”.

Letting love in does not mean giving your power away to them. It does not mean not saying no when you need to. It does not mean that you are not seeing parts of them that are difficult at times.

Feeling your heart and your love, even if there was an “off” moment, a moment in the interaction, where you were hurt or angry, will reveal to you the true superpowers you have,

Do that not in order to swallow down your anger. Have that anger flow, but at the same time, or a moment after make sure that you are not staying closed off.

When you start to see from the heart, you will be able to better perceive where the person is trapped in their own struggles, fears, shame, sense of helplessness, and so on. It will enable you to be compassionate without taking responsibility. It will make you immune to the unpleasant reactions you might face.

Like seeing someone busy undoing a knot. They may struggle, be angry, want to give up at times, and be agitated when someone comes close. But seeing them with and through your heart is knowing they are able to solve it on their own.

Giving space for their frustration, without taking it personally.

Opening your heart to love is not giving in, it is retaining your true humane power and becoming settled within yourself. It will allow you to better know how to relate to people.

It will free you from the defensive judgment we tend to get stuck in and will enable you to see them, without needing to be above them or by giving them any power over you.

Your mind may shout against this. It will try to convince you that this is dangerous. It holds a memory of lacking power when you are loved. It wants you to keep on disconnecting believing it gives you some relief.

Remember that what happens is that you are then disconnecting from yourself. From your confidence. From life.

Simply take into account that your mind will shout. It will use all the ugliness it can find to make you not do that. Understand it is in panic. It wants no change. It wants to close you off again believing it is the safest.

For a while let it shout but choose not to give it power. Understand it… and even internally, say to that voice- I get it. I will take care… and why do you want to keep me closed off?

And while you do that keep your connection to your heart by bringing attention to your breath, and make sure you feel that area of your body.

Do that for at least three days, and just pay attention to what have you gained for yourself.

What may have shifted in your relationships?

What power did you gain back?

Let your love in and your life return to yours. When your heart is ready to feel and love, the clarity of your choices is freed from the neediness of acceptance or of proving your worth. I am sure you will be gaining so much ease, trust, and freedom to be in your relationships.

Love is your power. It belongs to no one but yourself.

Anna

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