Want more contentment? Let’s be resentment free.

Today I want to challenge you to look at your resentment toward some people as well as towards yourself.

We all carry resentment somewhere.

We may be celebrating our resentments. We feel “high” on it and search for the ones we can share it with. Or we may hold it quietly inside of us.

We tend to mistake them for opinions, as judgments that strengthen our boundaries and clarity.

Resentments are the echoes of old lost “No”s, or of anger we could not express at the right time. Resentment was the way we fought the experience of helplessness, humiliation, and hurt we went through, not knowing how to be with it.

Today, when we resent, it may feel like good protection, especially when we resent others. But when we keep resentment active in us, we are the ones suffering. We perpetuate hurt and pain. We keep on sabotaging ourselves. We decrease our ability to find joy, love, and connection. We even lose the path to our purpose.

When we resent parts of ourselves, we stay stuck in a constant waiting state—waiting to be loved and accepted by those who could / cannot do so. We were giving others the power over how we feel about ourselves and what we can do or be.

Resentment covers all the feelings that we so need to meet and digest.

Feelings that can allow us to be free to express who we truly are and be true to our hearts.

Instead, we become the ones who continuously disconnect from our beauty, power, and unique abilities.

I invite you to participate in a week-long challenge of 10 min. Daily, to resolve the resentment you carry within you and transform it into growth, relief, healing, joy, and a better connection to yourself and others.

To start, take a moment to choose one thing in yourself (body, way of acting, feeling, and so on) that you tend to resent.

Or you can think of a person that you resent. Someone you are busy within your mind or react strongly to when thinking about.

For a week, arrange 10 minutes a day to be undisturbed.

In that 10 min. You will focus on that aspect of yourself or the person you chose to release from your resentment.

First, you will close your eyes and focus on your breath.

Try to bring your attention more and more to your body.

Please don’t get upset or pressured when your mind wanders; it is a defense mechanism.

The more you choose to return, the easier it will become, and the clearer the choice of wanting to feel and engage will establish. The less the old need of disconnect will be valid.

After a few moments, bring that person or part of yourself to your attention.

Pay attention to the immediate response: your thoughts and how you react within your body.

Each time you register a new response, take a moment to sense it and then breathe deeply, trying to let go.

Be willing to soften your body to release the resentment and meet whatever you might feel, remember, and think.

Say repeatedly in your heart (or out loud): “Thank you for being in my life.”

You might go through resistance, not wanting, arguing about it…but keep saying that sentence. Take some time in between for the sentence to linger and shift in your experience.

Be aware of what you can discover that you feel after a while.

If there is sadness or pain, soften it and breathe.

Let it spread in your body if there is a wave of anger.

If there is a shame, breathe into it and let it be there.

Try towards the end to also add the touch of “with you, I could discover….”

See what comes up. What have you discovered within yourself as a talent, ability, courage, and others because and through that “part” or person?

It will be challenging at the beginning but bear with it.

Keep on doing it and moving through all the layers. Make sure you always connect to the physical experience with breathing and sensing. This way, you could create a transformation that will bring change, healing, ease, and growth.

You are welcome to do that another week with the same subject or change to something new.

I wish you an incredible journey into your contentment and inner peace.

Yours,

Anna

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