Who are you?

Recovering the parts of yourself that were smashed by judgement and criticism of others.

Who you truly are lies beneath the wounds of trauma, the insecurities or fears that have their roots in the past and the cultural pressures you may learned to obey.

It lies under the effort of trying to be someone.

It waits to be expressed, and woken up layer by layer, as it also lies under the generational burdens you may carry and the expectation that derive from it.

Being true to who you are is a state in which you are immersed in the experience of life and being alive. There is a sense of rootedness. Of having a place in the world that is waiting to be filed with and by you. It is not a finite place as we often create in our minds.

It is not a place that that holds you immovable.

This place is the sense of what you create and express.

It is the space youhold. And by that it becomes a space that holds you.

The sense of who you are is one that cannot be fully defined.

It is a state, in which you are in flux: you maintain an inner freedom to choose and find your truth in every situation. It is a state that has a structure but at the same time is leaking out of it.

Many of the ideas you have about of who you are, are the ones given to you.

It is the way you were/are seen.

The way we are seen can reveal to us many aspects of who we are, that we are not always able to see ourselves.

The way people viewed you may have been problematic and hurting at times. Mainly because of the way they related to you themselves; How much they were afraid of what they viewed or were painfully reminded of what they lacked.

If you manage to take the judgmental part out, you may even surprisingly find an aspect of yourself you may have not been conscious of. It may also allow you to realize where you are escaping your true being and by not daring to be it, create confusion or irritations.

For example: there is a nasty remark people use to dismantle you when they say “Oh you are too sensitive…” is such nasty way of making someone feel ashamed and bad about what they perceive and are disturbed by.

It is often when the sensitivity becomes a disturbance as it reveals what others might want to keep buried.

It may be that when we are not integrating our sensitivity by being afraid or unable to express what we want or the boundaries we need, that our sensitivity is seen as something “unnecessary”.

Sensitivity is the way we sense a situation. It is the way we are able to then “see” the underlying currents and relate to them. It is the way our spirit makes sure we won’t ignore what we are, uncover what is it that we want (do not want) and insists we will express ourselves and be free.

Now of course some of the criticism we hear is beneficial even when unpleasant.

Being open to hear and manage to not react to the “personal” additions the critics bring in, we can be shown the parts in us that are not yet free. The parts that are not yet integrated. The ones we do not know yet how to express.

For example: if you hear often about you being impatient (or that you want too much), try to let t in. In this view people see the eagerness in you. The speed you have and the deep wanting. But they also can show you that you are still lacking the deep confidence and the trust to be truly connected to those parts of yourself. That you are pushing, getting angry at others or waiting for them to join you, as you are afraid of standing alone. Or you might become impatient when you are trying to constantly overcome a sense of rejection, of not being wanted as you are. That you are waiting for something to be given you by others to feel good, or right that you are not daring to heal and maintain within yourself.

Impatience can show you where there might be an inner dependency you are still not free from.

I want to challenge you in your quest of being who you truly are, by offering you a way to “recycle” the criticism you may have been receiving.

To rescue those parts, that were trapped in judgements.

To free yourself from the pieces that were given to you to carry such as the fears and frustrations of others.

To dare to honestly meet the fears or old wounds that have held you apart from those magnificent pieces of yourself.