YOU ARE WANTED – your private (r)evolution

You are wanted. You are wanted as who you are. You are wanted without any demand or a price to pay.

You are wanted by LIFE.

People may have rejected you. There was probably more than one time you felt unwanted.

But life wanted you all the time. Asking you to want it back. To want your life in its fullness.

Sadly, we are all children of cultures that are based on some kind of oppression. Cultures of restraint and submission (and domination). Cultures that are supporting the game of “wanted/unwanted” and the toxic shaming that comes with it.

These oppressions enter deep into the souls of the people around us. Out of their own sense of being unwanted, they have been giving us that burden to carry as well.

Life gives us the freedom to be. People are the ones that try to take it away.

We all have the path of regaining that sense of being wanted by life in front of us. A path that is not anymore about the seeking of being wanted in others, but rather finding it in the connection to ourselves and the life force flowing in us. With the capacity of being who we are, without needing to make it pretty, better or become a super-hero*in who is never getting hurt.

To mend and regain that connection, we need to meet, engage, feel and admit everything that is within us.

When we do so, we will find the door through which we can open ourselves to life and its wanting us.

When we do, we are filled with inspiration. We are then showered with an effortless confidence and trust. We are gifted with the ability of seeing people for who they are, without needing to twist ourselves or distort them.

It is the place from which we can then expand and express more of who we are and who we can be.

We can let more of life’s bounty and diversity enter into our experience.

When that connection is done, we start to naturally want what is true for us.

Want and be wanted.

The beauty in that wanting is in it being non- instrumental, or not self-indulgent.

Wanting free from being used as a treat, a trophy, an approval or a proof of our worth.

It is a wanting that nourishes us, the people around us and life itself.

Re-connecting to the feeling and knowing we are wanted holds few challenges ahead:

We have to use the same “door” in us we have closed as part of us creating a protective shield. We need to choose again and again to open ourselves and connect to what is within us. We need to be patient and do it even if the need to close up creeps in as it tries to protect us from a possible rejection. As it whispers to us that it will be impossible to take.

We are asked to feel and meet the old fear we have tried to burry and the unhealed pain we carry as the result of the unmet wish to be wanted.

By doing so not only can we then heal that wound, but the fear of meeting it will stop dominate our lives and the choices we make.

And one more important thing is, we need to take back the power we gave others and integrated in us. Taking it back does not mean to stay alone, but rather to dare to stand alone while inviting others to join.

Try it and see how it works for you.

Please give this process time to bud and flower in you till that connection to life wanting you. Until you will be able to truly open up to it and absorb this wanting and love. Once it is clear in you, others who want you will find you!

Yours,

Anna

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